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Written by Dr Chris Williams.


Being More Assertive


The Rules of Assertion


Assertiveness is about being able to make sure your opinions and feelings are considered. You can be assertive
without being forceful or rude.

Assertiveness means:


• Letting others know about your feelings, needs, rights and opinions while maintaining respect for other people.
• Expressing your feelings in a direct, honest and appropriate way.
• Realising it’s possible to stand up for your rights in such a way that you don’t disregard another person’s rights at
the same time.

Assertion is not about winning, but about being able to walk away feeling that you put across what you wanted to say.




1. Respect myself – who I am and what I do.
2. Recognise my own needs as an individual.
3. Make clear “I” statement about how I feel and what I think.
4. Allow myself to make mistakes.
5. Change my mind, if I choose.
6. Ask for ‘thinking it over time.’
7. Allow myself to enjoy my successes.
8. Ask for what I want.
9. Recognise that I am not responsible for the behaviour of other adults.
10. Respect other people and expect the same in return.
11. Say I don’t understand – when I don’t.
12. Deal with others without being dependent on them for approval.


Further Content


I’m not good enough module and book.
Assertiveness module (Optional modules section).
Being assertive worksheet.Being-more-assertive
All available at

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